One thing I pray often is that I would be a fair parent.
I know that we as parents don’t always see the entire situation play out between our kids. I have often responded to one of our kids’ cry, to find one kid laying into the other with a plastic hammer or other blunt toy. It’s easy for me to assume what happened, but I am learning more and more that we need to take time as parents to properly assess or analyze the situations we walk into. More often than not we don’t see the entire scenario play out, we often arrive in Act 2 rather than at the curtain call. We need to put our own emotions on hold and ask the following questions.
What exactly happened? Was he provoked, was he defending himself, defending his brother? Did she mean to hurt him? Did he simply over-react to something? Was he scared?
It can leave our kids hurt and confused when we discipline reactively. In order to properly discipline our kids, we need to use responsive discipline to correct them in love, and we need to have the big picture in order to do this effectively. We aren’t doing them any favors by guessing at what happened.
We need to been responsive rather than reactive in our discipline. Responsive discipline means putting your own emotions and feelings on hold for a minute or two while you find out exactly what went down.
I know it isn’t always possible as we are all humans, but fairness within the family is one of those key issues to keeping peace in the home between siblings. This can avoid many headaches, arguments, and resentment in the future.
We as Christians have access to a supernatural surveillance system rivalled by no-one. We need to pray that Holy Spirit would give us supernatural insight to ask the right questions, so that we can discipline effectively.
Let’s choose to always ask Holy Spirit to give us insight into what really happened, starting right now!
I need to apologize for not posting last week, but with all that’s going on with Brody, life has been more than crazy. Here’s a quick update on his situation in case you are interested.
Brody is still in the NICU in Lethbridge and doing very well. He made the move from the isolette (incubator) into a crib over the weekend which means he is regulating his temperature very well. He is steadily taking more feedings by bottle rather than the feeding tube which is great! Once he is consistently taking his feedings by bottle we can bring him home! We can’t wait for that day, it seems like he has been in the hospital forever (just ask Angela J.) Thanks for your continued support by way of prayers, meals, watching the kids, and all the other ways you have helped. We have been blown away by the Body of Christ in action all around us. We are loved and blessed! We give God all the praise and the glory through this difficult time, and we know the battle is His, and the victory is ours! Hallelujah!
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I leave you with a quote.
“Normal is a setting on a washing machine.” -Phil Cooke