We should never think our kids are too young to pick up on the negative things we do. Kids are smarter than we think, and they will ask us why we can do things they are told not to.
Take the other day for example…
I found Talina and Jarel on Jarel’s bunk bed yelling at each other at the top of their lungs.
I quickly scolded them for yelling at each other, but I was met by a shocking reply, “But we’re just being Mom and Dad right now… You guys yell sometimes…” I could feel the blood rushing to my face, I had been called out by a four-year old, and she was right.
My mind reeled as I tried to back pedal out of this conversation, I felt like I was backed into a corner. Where did that come from? What do I say now? Do I put up a defense? Admit she was right? Run and hide?
Fortunately, I stayed transparent and explained that Mommy and Daddy yelling wasn’t ok either. I apologized for setting that example for them, and asked for their forgiveness. Thankfully they cheerfully extended it to me.
I learned a valuable lesson that day. When you screw up as a parent, admit it instead of setting a double standard. The old saying “Do as I say, not as I do” is a gross misconduct of the responsibility we have as parents. Double standards leave kids confused, and there’s enough confusion in the world without us adding to the mix. Let’s never do it again.
Do you have any (now) humorous tales of kids calling you on your actions? I’d love to hear them.
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