The question still sears into my mind and heart.
“Would you let another man talk to your wife the way you do?”
It stopped me in my tracks and I instantly felt ashamed for the way I had treated my wife in the past when I first heard it. My mind quickly spun through the reels of memories of times I was upset, mad, or hurt and lashed out with venomous words.
There was no way I would ever let another man talk to my wife that way, so why did I do it?
Me, the one that is supposed to encourage her.
Me, the one who entered a covenant to love her for the rest of my life.
Me, the one who promised in front of family and friends that through sickness, through health, through rich, through poor, that I would love till it hurts (and then some.)
Yet, I find myself tearing her down with words spewed out in anger.
Just like building construction, what takes months or years to build, can be reduced to rubble in a matter of seconds when proper care is not used.
So how do we keep from doing this?
As always, Christ is the ultimate example.
We are to love our wives the way Christ loves the church.
We are to look out for them, and we are to have their best interest in mind. (Think of the sacrifice Christ made on the cross for the church, does watching the kids for an evening, or sitting through that chick flick really seem that bad?)
I don’t see Jesus yelling at the people who came to Him broken, insecure, or hurt. He welcomes them tenderly with open arms. His love is unconditional, indescribable, and all inclusive.
Maybe you’re like me and have said some hurtful things.
Take heart, our God is the redeemer, and His forgiveness is readily available.
It might hurt your pride a bit, but admit your mistakes. Work things out.
Lets make the choice to cherish our wives, and remember, we’re better together.