Monthly Archives: July 2012

They’re Growing Up

We’ve been a child short since Sunday.
My parents asked if Talina could stay behind for a few days when we came home from visiting my family for a milestone birthday celebration. We quickly said yes as we knew Grandpa and Grandma would have just as much fun as Talina if not more.

This has definitely been the case. We have received numerous pictures from Grandma indicating they were having a wonderful time.

On our end it has been different. The drive home was much quieter without our little chatterbox, I wasn’t quite sure I liked it. 😉

I’ll admit my heart sank a little this morning as I glanced at her open bedroom door and empty bed. Even though I knew that she was in capable hands I missed her big-time. Thankfully, she is coming home today! (Woohoo!)

I’m certain this is one of the steps incorporated in me letting go bit by bit, and day by day.

This past day has reminded me of the following tidbits;
1.) Treasure even the shortest moments you share with your kids.
2.) You can never have too many pictures of them.

What advice do you have for a Dad that is starting to recognize that his kids are growing up? I would love to hear it!

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What Happened To Forever?

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I’ve been noticing more and more lately a major shift between how differently our generation, and the previous generation views commitment.

I’m dismayed to see a culture telling the young people of today that marriage is more like a hobby or a sport than a lifelong commitment. They’re told that they should see if it “fits” rather then choosing adapt their mindset to live a life of sacrifice and giving. They say that if it isn’t working, to part ways, instead of working on both yourself and the relationship.

Angela and I made a commitment to each other over 6 years ago that far surpasses emotion, attitude, or current situations. We have removed quitting as an option. We are committed to something bigger than ourselves, the covenant we made before God and Man.

When you decide right from the beginning that you will never quit, it changes your perspective greatly. It’s easier to focus on the future, rather than the current situation you are in.

Please don’t get me wrong, marriage is a LOT of work, and not everyday is marital bliss. But we keep pressing on, encouraging each other, loving each
other, and mostly importantly, working hard to keep Christ in the center of it all. Remember, a three stranded chord is not easily broken. (Ecc 4:12)

What are some things you can share with me about having a passionate long-lasting marriage? I know I have a lot to learn yet, so I will remain teachable.

Anyone have any hints?

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Pressing On!

I was out for a run the other night, and my mind started drawing parallels between running, and my life as a husband and father. (I’ve found that running is sometimes the best time for me to think…)

The way I see it, I can tell myself that I need to run to get into shape and leave it at that, or I can push myself harder each time while I race against my own personal best to log a faster time. I’m choosing the latter, I want to be faster, stronger, and healthier!

I see it quite similar in both marriage and fatherhood. I can wear the title of husband because of a paper document I signed and words I uttered, or the title of father because of my contribution to a life; or I can live out these awesome job descriptions with passion on a daily basis!

I’ve been pushing myself harder in both running and my family life lately, and what a difference it is making! I work hard to ensure that when I am home, that my family has my attention. That’s not to say I never pick up my iPad, or check Facebook throughout the day, but it does mean that I’m working hard to keep my family as top priority.

… but one thing I do [it is my one aspiration]: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the [supreme and heavenly] prize to which God in Christ Jesus is calling us upward. (Philippians 3:13b – 14 AMP)

I’m going to keep pressing on, I encourage you too as well. It’s not too late to dust off the running shoes, the wedding ring, or the baseball glove.

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All-Pro Dad

I’m always looking for informative resources to help equip me to be a better dad and husband, and thought I would share this with you today.

All Pro Dad is an organization built around helping Dad’s become the best Fathers and Husbands they can be. They are a great resource for finding fun things to do with your family and they offer awesome advice on being a father and husband. I highly reccomend following them on Twitter, Facebook, or their daily emails.

You can find their website here; http://www.allprodad.com/

(They even have a sister group called iMom available here; http://imom.com/)

Have a great day!

Children of Influence

I’ve been praying lately that my kids would be a positive influence to others. I want them to influence others more than they are influenced themselves. I want their character to become contagious.

This is an area I struggled with as a teen, and still often do.
I know what my beliefs and convictions are, and there is no compromise in that regard, but my attitude and personality often shift depending on who I am with. (Just ask Angela.)

I’m learning more than ever as a Dad, not only do I need to deal with my own “issues,” but I need to teach my kids how to navigate through the same waters. Sometimes even at the same time, (and our oldest is only 4!)

That being said, I truly believe we would be doing our kids a disservice if we fail to disclose some of our own shortcomings to them. (With careful consideration of course.)

Without sharing these experiences, our kids will grow up with the unrealistic perspective that perfection is expected (and attainable) this side of heaven. I need to show my kids that I’m not a flawless father figure, and I recognize that I am responsible for showing them where my sights are set (and to help them line up their own.) We as parents have such an awesome responsibility.

Alongside being influential, I want each of them to spend the necessary time following (as they grow and learn), but not a moment longer than required.

Let me explain.

We aren’t designed to be followers our entire lives. There will come a time for each of the kids to trek out on their own once Angela and I have equipped them with all we can. Angela and I made a covenant to God (in front of our church family) to give each of our kids every benefit of home, church, and education. We take it seriously, this is a tremendous responsibility.

As a side note, I would be foolish to say that we’re the only ones equipping our kids for real life. They will have Grandparents, Sunday School Teachers, Pastors, Mentors, as well as other friends and family helping as well. We are so blessed to have such an awesome direct and church “family.”

The longer I am a parent, the more I realize it’s just as much training up children as it is correcting myself and going through training myself to ensure I am practicing what I am teaching.

I too am a work I progress.

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